Floriana Lino

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I (26F) have been talking to this guy (27M) for over a year now. We met online through gaming and built a pretty close connection. We shared personal stories, communicated every day, and he was always open about his feelings for me. He made a lot of promises, like wanting to visit me, but due to his personal and work issues, that never happened. I’ve always been hesitant to dive too deep emotionally because everything was online, and meeting in person was important to me before I could consider it real. Eventually, I got attached and started developing feelings because of how much we talked, but then, out of nowhere, he became cold and said things weren’t working out. This hit me hard. I later found out online that he had been talking to another girl. I confronted him about it, and he admitted it, saying he didn’t really know why he did it and that he wasn’t thinking clearly. He explained that he had been going through a lot mentally, particularly with family issues (which I’ve known about since we met). He told me that he couldn’t reach out to me because, according to him, I always started arguments. He also said he didn’t think I liked him back, which made him unsure about us. In his words, he wanted me to be the person he could talk to, but he was too scared to message me because of all the fighting. In our recent talk, he admitted that he started getting turned off by the constant arguments, and I can see why. I’ll admit that I got upset a lot, especially when I expected him to understand me perfectly or communicate in a way that made me feel heard. There might also be a language barrier that made his messages feel off to me. But even though I never openly expressed my feelings, I thought we had an unspoken understanding. We’d talk every day, have long calls, watch movies together, and just connect. It felt real, but in the last few months, he became a lot more distant and less open about his feelings. Still, he kept sending mixed signals, making me feel like he wanted me, but it was confusing. Now, he’s asking for another chance. He says he’ll stop talking to the other girl because he doesn’t see a future with her and wants to fix things with me. He tells me that I’m the one he really wants. He hasn’t talked to her yet, but says he will once he’s settled his personal issues, especially with his family. He didn’t want to handle everything at once because he’s mentally overwhelmed and wants to take things step by step. While I can understand this to an extent, it also bothers me because I feel like delaying the conversation only makes things worse and raises more questions. I can feel that he’s sincere about not being able to handle everything all at once, but I’m still uncertain. I really like this guy, and from what I know of him, his actions feel out of character. He’s usually a nice, patient person who’s never intentionally hurt me before, except for this situation. He seems genuinely regretful, but I still can’t shake the feeling that he entertained two girls at once. That really messes with my mind. I understand why he felt scared of talking to me, but at the same time, I’m traumatized by what he did because it’s not how I knew him. I told him I can’t give him a definitive answer because I’m still unsure. I don’t know if I can trust him again, and I’m scared I’ll keep bringing up the other girl, which will just make things worse. I’m really confused, hurt, and unsure if I should give this situation a second chance. Any advice would be really appreciated because I’m feeling broken right now.