No, you’re not a bad person or in the wrong here. It sounds like you were juggling quite a lot—working from home, taking care of the kids, and making dinner. It’s understandable that shoveling the driveway wasn’t at the top of your priority list, especially since it wasn’t explicitly discussed or requested.

Here are a few things to consider:

1. Unspoken Assumptions Lead to Misunderstandings: If your husband assumed you’d finish the shoveling without asking, that’s on him, not you. Clear communication about expectations could help prevent such conflicts in the future.
2. Shared Responsibilities: You already had a full plate at home. It’s okay to expect that household responsibilities, like shoveling, are shared or explicitly communicated, especially when both of you are working in different capacities.
3. Express Your Feelings: Let him know how you felt about his reaction and the assumption that you’d handle it. It’s okay to point out that you were managing multiple things and would have appreciated some acknowledgment of your efforts.
4. Reassess the Balance: If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the mental and physical load of "taking care of everything," it may be time to discuss redistributing responsibilities to ensure both of you feel supported and appreciated.

It’s important to address this calmly but honestly. Feeling like you’re constantly carrying the burden isn’t sustainable, and clear communication can help ensure both of you feel respected and valued in your partnership.