I totally get why you’re feeling uncertain—putting yourself out there, especially after someone’s already told you they’re not looking for a relationship, can feel awkward. But here’s the thing: it’s not embarrassing or weird to reach out, especially if you’re feeling more confident about yourself now. Confidence is always attractive, and people’s feelings can change over time. If you’re reaching out to reconnect or see where things stand, that’s perfectly valid. That being said, it’s important to think about why you still like him. Are you genuinely interested in him as a person, or is it more about the idea of him “changing his mind” because of your glow-up? Sometimes, we hold onto feelings for someone not because of who they truly are, but because we want validation. It’s essential to check in with yourself and make sure that you still see him as someone you would want to connect with, not just as a potential ego boost.

Another thing to consider is whether he’s actually worth putting yourself out there for. If he’s already made it clear that he’s not looking for a relationship, ask yourself if he’s really the kind of guy you want to invest more time and energy into, especially if he’s emotionally unavailable. Even if you like him, sometimes it’s better to let go of someone who isn’t ready to meet you halfway. If you do decide to reach out, keep it casual—something like, “Hey, how’ve you been?” or “Hey, it’s been a while! I’ve been thinking about you lately.” You could mention your glow-up, but don’t make it all about proving anything to him. The goal is to reconnect, not to pressure him into liking you more. And whatever his response is, be prepared to accept it.

He might be receptive, or he might not be interested, but remember, his response doesn’t define your worth. You’ve grown, and you deserve someone who genuinely appreciates you for who you are. Ultimately, if you do text him, do it because you genuinely want to reconnect, not just to see if he’ll change his mind. And if things don’t work out, don’t take it personally. Keep your head up—no matter what happens, you’re doing great!