I'm really sorry you're going through this—it sounds like a tough and painful situation for both of you. It's clear you care about your girlfriend and want the best for her, but you're also navigating your own struggles with substance use, and it can be incredibly hard to break the cycle in a relationship where both of you are using.

Here are a few things to consider as you reflect on your options:

1. Prioritize Your Own Recovery

Both you and your girlfriend are struggling with addiction. While it's natural to want to support her, it's crucial that you prioritize your own recovery first. Addiction can be extremely consuming, and trying to help someone else when you're still actively using substances can enable unhealthy behaviors in both of you. Consider seeking professional help or joining a support group for yourself, such as Narcotics Anonymous or another program that fits your needs. Being sober, or working on getting sober, is a huge foundation for any relationship moving forward.

2. Set Boundaries

Addiction can make it really hard to see what’s best for you because emotions can get tangled up with substance use. It sounds like you tried to set boundaries with your girlfriend around her cocaine use, but when faced with temptation, it became difficult to stick to them. Setting clear boundaries—such as not engaging in drug use with her and distancing yourself from situations where drugs are present—could be helpful. It’s important that these boundaries are for you and not just for her. You can't control her actions, but you can control what you're willing to accept in your life.

3. Communicate Openly

The impulsive breakup was likely a reaction to your frustration, and it's understandable. However, it might be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with her once you're both in a calmer place. Acknowledge the challenges you both face with addiction, express how her drug use is impacting you, and be clear about your need to focus on your own recovery. If you want to support her, let her know that, but be clear that you need to protect your own mental and physical well-being in order to do that.

4. Consider a Break

You mentioned the idea of taking a break. Given that both of you are in the midst of serious addiction struggles, a temporary break to focus on individual growth could help you both gain some perspective. It could give you space to work on your recovery without the added pressure of a romantic relationship. During this time apart, you can both reflect on what you need individually and whether the relationship can thrive in a healthier way in the future.

5. Acknowledge Her Resistance to Change

You mentioned that your girlfriend doesn't seem ready to change, and that’s a tough reality to face. You can't force someone to get better—they need to be willing to change themselves. You can offer support, but ultimately, the decision to change must come from her. If she's not open to support or change, it will be harder for both of you to move forward healthily together. This doesn’t mean you need to give up on her entirely, but it might mean taking a step back and allowing her to face the consequences of her actions, which can sometimes be a part of the process of getting sober.

6. Be Compassionate with Yourself

You’re in an incredibly difficult situation, and it's understandable to feel lost and conflicted. Addiction is complicated and messy, and it's okay not to have all the answers right now. Be compassionate with yourself and understand that you're navigating your own path of recovery, which will look different from hers. You don’t have to fix everything right away, but taking small steps toward clarity and growth—whether together or apart—can ultimately lead you to a better place, both individually and as a couple.

7. Evaluate the Relationship’s Future

Consider whether this relationship is sustainable in its current state. You’re both dealing with addiction, and while love and support are important, there needs to be a strong foundation of healthy behavior and mutual respect for the relationship to thrive. If both of you are entrenched in substance use, the relationship will likely continue to suffer. Take the time to ask yourself if this relationship, as it stands now, is truly serving both of you or if it’s holding you back from healing.

Ultimately, your decision needs to be about protecting yourself and fostering your own growth. It's possible that with time, space, and commitment to recovery, you and your girlfriend could reconnect in a healthier way. But only you can decide what steps are best for you at this point. Take care of yourself first—you deserve it.