Jacquelyn Halle2 months agoI recently had a disagreement with my husband (28M) that happened during an intimate moment, and I'm feeling a bit confused about it. I decided to create a throwaway account to share my thoughts without it being linked to my main profile. **UPDATE:** I appreciate all the feedback I received! I've been reflecting on everything, and this morning started off a bit awkward. My husband went out to pick up some milk that he was supposed to get yesterday, and we weren't really talking—just coexisting without any tension, but also without any warmth. He tried to lighten the mood by joking about my "frowny face" and drew a stick figure on the Etch A Sketch, but I didn't find it funny and didn't respond. Later, while I was washing dishes, our son asked for a drink. I asked my husband to help find his sippy cup, which he looked for briefly but then sat back down. I suggested he check under the couch, and he replied, "Jesus Christ, I'm not looking under the couch." I insisted it would only take a second, and when our son came back asking again, I went to the couch, found the cup immediately, and said, "See, literally one second," before returning to the dishes. This has made me realize a few things. On the 2nd, when the bank opens, I'm planning to open an account solely in my name to start saving some money for myself. I’ve come to understand that I shouldn’t feel obligated to have sex when I’m not in the mood—that’s not right. I need to be more direct with my husband about what I need, especially when it comes to household responsibilities. For example, I want to invest in a better vacuum and find more storage solutions that are toddler-proof. I’ve decided it’s time to stop tiptoeing around my feelings. If my husband chooses to leave, that’s something I’ll have to accept because I’m reaching a breaking point. I deserve to express my needs without hesitation.5
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