Essence Diodore2 months agoI (22, female) recently found myself in a vulnerable situation after breaking up with my ex-boyfriend (23, male) about a month ago. Our relationship lasted over a year, and we always talked about our future together. However, when he asked me if I was willing to seriously consider a future that could lead to marriage, I hesitated. I come from a very traditional family with strict values, and marrying someone from a different community is not something my parents would accept. I expressed that I wasn’t ready to give him a definitive answer at that moment, hoping that I might find the courage to introduce him to my family in the future. Feeling uncertain, he decided he couldn’t rely on my "maybe" and chose to end the relationship, which I understood was a fair decision on his part. Since the breakup, I’ve been struggling with feelings of sadness and longing for what we had. Last night, overwhelmed by my emotions, I called him and begged him to take me back. I wanted clarity—just a yes or no. After a moment of silence and hesitation, he agreed to give it another shot, although I sensed that his response was more to soothe me than a definitive commitment. I apologized for my emotional outburst and suggested that he take his time to think it over, proposing that we both have clarity by the end of the month. I also acknowledged that even if we got back together, we wouldn’t be able to meet frequently unless I moved away for a job. My parents are also pressuring me about marriage, which complicates things further. If I do move, I would have to maintain a long-distance relationship with him. I’m left reflecting on the situation, wondering if my actions were desperate or if I was simply expressing my feelings in a moment of weakness. What do you think?7
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