Dave Hester2 months agoHello everyone, I’m reaching out for some guidance on a sensitive topic with my girlfriend. I’m 24, and this is my first long-term relationship, which has been going strong for nearly three years. While I deeply care for her and appreciate our life together, I’ve been feeling increasingly unhappy with our sex life. In the beginning, we had a great connection, and sex was frequent and fulfilling. However, over time, the frequency has significantly decreased to about twice a month. Although we still enjoy each other when we do engage, I can’t help but feel that something is missing. I’ve casually mentioned wanting to be more intimate, but those conversations often don’t lead to any change. She sometimes says she’ll be in the mood soon, but then she ends up feeling too tired. I find myself in a tough spot. I love living with her and sharing our lives (and our two cats!), but I’m starting to feel resentful about the lack of intimacy. I worry that if we don’t address this, it could create bigger issues in our relationship. I’ve even found myself turning to other outlets like porn or social media to fill that gap, and I often catch myself wishing for a partner who is more sexually active. I really want to have an open and honest conversation about this, but I’m unsure how to approach it without making her feel defensive or pressured. I don’t want to jeopardize our relationship, but I also know that it’s important to address my feelings. How can I start this conversation in a way that encourages a constructive dialogue? I’m looking for advice on how to express my feelings while also being receptive to hers. Thanks for your help!17
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