Sara Ami2 months agoI'm reaching out for some perspective on a situation that’s been weighing heavily on me. I’m a 20-year-old woman, and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend, Jack (21), for about three years now. I genuinely believe he’s the one for me—he’s funny, kind, loving, and understanding, and he exceeds all my expectations. I love him deeply and can’t picture my life without him. We even moved in together after graduating high school, and overall, everything seems perfect. Or at least, almost perfect. Lately, I’ve been struggling with our intimacy. In the beginning, we were very active, being intimate nearly every day. However, over the past two years, that has drastically changed. We’ve only been intimate about seven times in total. Jack often tries to initiate intimacy, but I usually turn him down. When we do end up being intimate, it’s typically because I feel pressured to give in to his advances. It’s not that I find him unattractive or that I’m averse to physical intimacy. The problem lies in the fact that he struggles to help me reach climax. I find myself going along with it, but afterward, I feel empty and even a bit used. I often experience a strong discomfort when he tries to get close to me again afterward. This situation is particularly confusing because I’m not inexperienced or overly reserved. I had a few relationships before Jack, and I enjoyed those intimate experiences. In fact, during the first year of our relationship, our intimacy was wonderful, even though he wasn’t able to make me finish back then, either. I’m not sure what has changed. I still love Jack with all my heart and am very physically attracted to him—he’s honestly the most beautiful person I’ve ever seen. I want to share that deep level of closeness with him, but I can’t seem to bring myself to do it. Has anyone else experienced something similar? I’d really appreciate any advice or insights into what might be going on. Thank you!22
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