Annabelle Marianne2 months ago I’m reaching out anonymously to get some perspective on my situation, as I’m starting to feel a bit insecure and would appreciate some honest feedback. I’m a 32-year-old woman, and my boyfriend is 34. We’ve been together for 18 months, and while we have a great relationship, there’s something that’s been bothering me. It seems that my boyfriend is only interested in being intimate when I’m dressed in sexy lingerie. He often asks me to change into something specific, and he prefers that I keep the lingerie on during our intimate moments. Occasionally, he’ll even request that I wear a dress. At first, I thought it was fun and exciting, so I went on a shopping spree and bought a collection of nice lingerie to keep things interesting. However, I’ve started to feel a bit uncomfortable. It seems like he needs me to dress up in order to be aroused, and it’s beginning to make me feel unattractive. I can’t help but wonder if he would prefer me to be leaner, especially since he’s very fit and participates in triathlons. While he’s never made any negative comments about my body, he hasn’t really complimented my looks either. He has told me he thinks I’m smart, which is nice, but I wish he would express that he finds me pretty too. We enjoy spending time together and get along well, but I can’t shake the feeling that I’m not good enough for him. I know this might just be my insecurity talking, but it’s hard to ignore. I find myself wishing he would look at me without the lingerie and appreciate me for who I am, not just for the outfits I wear. Am I overreacting? Is this just a reflection of my own insecurities? I would love to hear your thoughts.10
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