Nancy Marie-Pierre2 months agoI feel like my (27F) husband (30M) is a bit too friendly with my best friend (28F), and I’m not sure if it’s just my own jealousy or a real issue. I need some advice on how to handle this. I’ll call my friend Hailey. I’ve known Hailey for nearly 10 years, and she was my maid of honor at my wedding. Hailey and her husband (28M) are in an open marriage. While it’s not something I’d ever consider, it works for them, and I respect their choices. Over the past few months, my husband and Hailey have become unusually close. He used to be indifferent toward her, but once he realized they share interests in the same games and TV shows, she suddenly became his favorite topic of conversation and the person he wants to spend time with. I didn’t think much of it at first, but recently, it’s started to bother me. For example, Hailey snapchatted my husband directly to invite him out for drinks. I wasn’t included in the invite, even though I’d recently confided in him about feeling down due to ongoing postpartum depression (I’m in therapy) and how much I’ve been struggling. We also have a toddler, so it’s not easy for both of us to go out together. On Christmas Eve, he went out drinking with Hailey and her husband while I stayed home prepping for Christmas and caring for our child. He said he’d only be gone for an hour or two, but by midnight, I still hadn’t heard from him. When I tried calling, he didn’t answer. He eventually came home close to 1 a.m., saying Hailey had taken his phone to stop him from leaving. Her husband backed up the story, but I was upset because if there had been an emergency with our son, I wouldn’t have been able to reach him. Then, on Boxing Day, my husband invited Hailey and her husband over to play games. Hailey, who is asthmatic, mentioned she was out of her inhaler, and my husband offered her our son’s inhaler, which she took home. Our son, who is also asthmatic, wasn’t sick at the time but struggles when he catches a cold. Now I have to get a new prescription before he goes back to nursery. My husband claims he didn’t mean for her to take it home but didn’t stop her either. Another moment that stung was when we were talking about upcoming movies in 2025. My husband mentioned wanting to see Chainsaw Man with Hailey. When I asked why he wouldn’t go with me, he said it was because I hadn’t seen the series (which is true). I suggested we find something else to watch together, but he brushed it off, saying one of us would need to stay home with our son. While he’s right, my parents have offered to babysit for us plenty of times. I’m struggling with whether these feelings are valid or if I’m overthinking the situation. I don’t want to seem controlling, but these moments have left me feeling sidelined. How can I approach this without creating unnecessary tension? Any advice would mean a lot.122
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