Jayden Kyro2 months agoI (23M) Realized My (22F) Fiancé Doesn’t Truly Like Me for Who I Am—How Can I Leave Her? I’ve been with my fiancée for three years now, and at the beginning, everything seemed perfect. We had great chemistry, and I genuinely thought we were well-matched. But over time, things began to change. After about two years together, I started noticing that our relationship felt like it was missing something, and the connection that used to be there started to fade. For one, our conversations became more superficial, and we seemed to lose that meaningful exchange we once had. What initially seemed exciting, even the sexual aspects of our relationship, eventually started feeling routine and unfulfilling. I’ve realized over the last month that I’m constantly being asked to change parts of who I am. She’s always pushing me to be someone else—more specifically, someone she wants me to be. It feels like nothing I do is ever quite right unless I conform to what she envisions. I’ve found myself sacrificing things that matter to me—like my hobbies—just to try to keep her happy. And despite my efforts, when I try to get her attention, she often ignores me, sometimes for hours. Then, as soon as I need to leave or step away, she suddenly demands my full attention. I love listening to her talk, but when it comes to me, she struggles to focus or engage. She claims to have attention problems, but I can see her deeply focusing on things that interest her. What’s been bothering me even more is that we don’t seem to share a common curiosity or excitement for the world. She doesn’t really have any hobbies of her own, and doesn’t seem to engage much with the world outside of our relationship. She’s only just started university after having to retake exams, while I’ve already graduated with a master’s. I feel like I’m living a much more dynamic life, and it’s hard for me to relate to her lack of ambition or curiosity. I still care about her, and I love her in many ways, but it feels like she doesn’t truly accept me for who I am. She’s always asking for changes, and I’ve reached a point where I’m losing myself in the process. I don’t want to sacrifice who I am, but I also don’t want to hurt her. I’m stuck between my love for her and the realization that we may not be the right match anymore. How do I navigate this? I don’t want to continue living a life where I’m not being myself, but leaving her is a hard decision. How can I do this without causing too much pain?133
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