McKenzie Cairo2 months agoWife (42F) Said Hurtful Things During an Argument, and I (30F) Don’t Know How to Move Forward My wife and I have been together for 8 years and married for 4. We’ve been spending the holidays at my parents’ house for the past two weeks, which was planned all year. The house is large, and we’re staying in a separate room. My parents live near the beach, where we also own a property that we rent out. It's been a beautiful location to explore, enjoy the beach, and experience the surrounding areas of the house we hope to move into eventually. We’re heading back home tomorrow for the last two weeks of our holidays together. But things have been really tense between us the past couple of days. Yesterday, she started acting off before we went on a hike. There was road rage on the way there, and when we got out of the car, she slammed the door. She then started complaining about how "hard everything is" even though nothing seemed wrong. I tried to check in with her, asking if she was okay, and she said she was fine. But the whole car ride was silent, which felt really strange. During the hike, she barely spoke to me for two hours. I tried asking if everything was alright, and she snapped at me, telling me I was suffocating her and that there was nothing wrong. When we got home that afternoon, she was still distant and cold. While we were making a grocery list for our road trip home, she suddenly snapped at me, yelling, “All you ever do is make assumptions. How did you even come to that conclusion? This is what you always do!” She stormed off in the middle of dinner with my family, and I just let her cool off. When I went to check on her about 20 minutes later, she was sitting alone, watching shows on her phone. She acted like nothing was wrong and said I was being “pedantic.” At this point, I felt like I was being gaslit. My family didn’t understand why she was acting this way either. I tried talking with her to figure out what was going on, but it just kept escalating. She told me, “All you ever do is talk. You never shut up, you just talk and talk about your feelings.” This really hurt me. Then she said, “I’m sick of being here. I want to go home. Your closeness with your family makes me uncomfortable.” She yelled that she didn’t even want to go to the beach the next day, accusing me of not caring about her feelings. I’ve always tried to be considerate of how she feels, and I often check in with her. But in that moment, I felt like I couldn’t do anything right. Her tone was so cold and cruel, and I was just trying to figure out what was wrong. Before we went to bed, she admitted that I hadn’t been rude or mean during the argument, but I’m still feeling hurt and unsure how to move past this. I don’t know what to do or how to get through this. It’s hard to shake off the things she said, and I’m feeling emotionally drained from the whole situation. Any advice on how to get past this would be greatly appreciated.121
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