Mary Jo Mirabelle2 months agoI recently got married, and while I love my husband and think he's a great guy, I’m starting to feel confused about some of his behaviors. These behaviors existed before we got married, but now that we’re married, I’m grappling with balancing being a strong-willed woman with embracing submission in marriage. I want to honor my husband, but I don’t want to feel controlled. My husband often expresses that he wants to be “consulted” on things that I feel are minor decisions. I can’t tell if this is genuinely his need or if I’m simply missing how I might be inconsiderate to him as my husband. Here are some examples: The conversation with my mom: I was talking to my mom about potential plans for my sister’s birthday, and he overheard. He was upset, feeling like I made plans without asking him first or leaving the conversation with a “I need to talk to my husband about this.” The broom hanger placement: I put up the broom hanger in a spot that I thought was fine, but he mentioned that I didn’t consult him on it first. Vacation rental plans: My family has a yearly beach trip, and we had discussed me sending potential vacation rentals to the family group chat. A few days later, he asked if I’d sent any homes and got upset when I told him I had. He felt we should have agreed on which homes I’d send before I shared them with my mom and sister. I want to honor his feelings and embrace what I believe to be biblical wifely submission, but I also don’t want to feel controlled. What are your thoughts on this dynamic from an outside perspective, and how can I address it with him without causing conflict?2586
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