Macauley Nowell2 months agoI (23M) recently broke up with my girlfriend (22F) because I found out she had been adding a number of guys on social media during our relationship. For some context, we’ve been together for a little over two years. Like any couple, we’ve had our ups and downs, but things had been going well lately. A few days ago, I noticed something on Facebook that made me uneasy. Her profile kept showing up in the mutual friends section of men I didn’t recognize. At first, I thought nothing of it—maybe they were people she’d added before we started dating, and it wasn’t a big deal. But then, last night, I couldn’t sleep and decided to check her phone. To be clear, I’ve only done this maybe twice in the two years we’ve been together, so it’s not something I make a habit of. What I found in her activity log shocked me. Over the course of our relationship, she had added around 30 guys as friends on Facebook—guys she had no real connection with, not even mutual friends from high school. And the thing that really bothered me was that all of them were attractive men, and some of them had received reactions from her on their stories. I woke her up and asked her about it, and at first, she seemed confused, saying she didn’t remember adding them. But when I pressed her further, she got defensive and snapped, saying “Give me my f-ing phone back.” I asked her why she added them, and her response was, “I never sent the request, I just accepted it, and I didn’t text anyone.” I then asked her to show me her story activity log, but she refused. The next morning, when I looked at her phone again, I saw that she had deleted all the interactions with those guys. That’s when I lost it, and we had a big argument. Eventually, I told her it was probably better if we broke up. Now that some time has passed, I’m questioning whether I made the right call. Part of me feels like it was the right decision given the situation, but I’m still unsure if I overreacted. I’m wondering if I handled this in the right way.241
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