Viktoria Dione2 months agoI (25F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (24M) for five years, and we’ve been living together for about a year now. A few months ago, he quit his job because it was causing him severe anxiety, and since then, I’ve been covering all of our living expenses. He feels terrible about it and is not happy being so reliant on me, but he’s struggled to commit fully to finding new work. While he’s applied to a few jobs, he hasn’t invested the kind of time and effort I would expect from someone seriously looking for a job. Lately, I’ve seen him in the deepest depression I’ve ever witnessed. He struggles to even pick up after himself sometimes, and I’ll come home from work to dirty dishes left out, then have to cook dinner on top of everything else. It’s starting to make me feel resentful, but I’m trying not to show it. About a month ago, he started getting professional help, which is a positive step, but I’m still unsure of what to do. He has access to my credit card for small purchases, and he uses it sparingly, but even those small charges—like gas or little things here and there—are beginning to bother me. I feel like I’ve been pointing these things out passive-aggressively, and I can tell it’s creating tension between us. I know he’s struggling, and I understand he’s going through a tough time, but it’s also been hard for me to keep shouldering the financial burden and household responsibilities. It’s affecting my emotional well-being, and I’m starting to feel like I’m losing my sense of self-worth in the process. I’m torn between feeling like I’m enabling him by picking up the slack and also feeling frustrated that he’s letting things get to this point. I’m wondering if it’s my fault for being too lenient or if it’s more on him for not taking responsibility and making real changes. I don’t want to walk away, but I also don’t know how much longer I can keep doing this. What would you do if you were in my shoes?1500
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