Keefe Shawnee2 months agoMy ex-husband and I rekindled our relationship less than two years after our divorce. After we stopped living together, we started enjoying each other’s company again and wanted to spend time together. However, we didn’t want to live together again. We both enjoyed having our own space and time. We have 4 kids, and I think we’ve become even better co-parents since the divorce than we were when living together. Our 4th child was born after the divorce. We’ve been in a relationship for a while now but continue to live separately. We stick to our child custody schedule but also do a lot of family activities together. We recently told the kids we were back together, but we explained it in a way that was appropriate for their age. We’ve been considering buying a duplex or a property with two homes so we can stay close but maintain separate spaces. We planned to start looking seriously in 2025, and now that it’s here, we’re ready. Initially, I thought it was best to stay unmarried since things are going well, but we’ve realized there are legal protections we’d want if we got married. So, we’re planning to remarry. While we love each other, we feel that a marriage at this point is more about practical considerations. We don’t want to change anything else. We can’t live together; our relationship works better when we don’t. I’ve realized that I just need my own space, and while I initially thought it was weird, I now understand that this arrangement works for us. Our kids are happy, and as long as they’re well-adjusted, I don’t think it’s wrong. We do want to be closer, though, and have more flexibility with the kids seeing both of us without needing to drive back and forth. We want to maintain our own spaces while being nearby. I know this is an unusual situation, and I don’t know anyone else with a similar arrangement. I’m curious if anyone here has experienced something like this and how it’s gone for them. 248
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