Beatrice Keeleigh2 months agoI (26F) don’t understand my boyfriend’s (27M) "jokes" about breaking up, and it’s leaving me feeling confused and frustrated. We’ve only been together for four months, and already things feel chaotic. We’ve had a few arguments, but it feels like we can’t stay away from each other. Lately, though, I’m starting to think he’s not as invested in the relationship as I am. Twice now, he’s joked about breaking up with me, and I just don’t get what he’s trying to achieve with these comments. The first time was around the second month we were together. He said he was moving away in a few days and that we wouldn’t be able to be together anymore. I didn’t react emotionally, and he interpreted that as me not caring. I was getting ready to move on, but a few days later, he said it was all just a joke. Then, just this month, we had a nice two-hour phone call while he was at work. Everything seemed fine—no arguments, just a pleasant conversation. But shortly after we hung up, I got a text from him that said: "I just want to say this and that'll be it. All jokes aside... I know you enjoyed our time together and it was fun while it lasted, but I think it's best we go our separate ways. You’re a wonderful person, and there are plenty of guys out there who are better than me that you can be with. I have some of your things, let me know when you want to pick them up." I responded with “ok” and asked, “What’s the reason?” I didn’t hear anything else, but that same night, he called me like nothing happened. I questioned him about the text, and he told me it was just a joke. The more upset I got, the angrier he became with me, blaming my negative reaction for why he didn’t want to deal with me anymore. Now, it feels like it’s only a matter of time before he comes up with a third "joke," and I don’t know how to handle it. I’m honestly wondering if it’s time to just move on, but I’m so confused by his behavior. Does he want to break up or is he just messing with me? I don’t know what to do anymore.133
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