Eraldo Beppe2 months agoMy ex (29F) and I (31M) broke up a year ago, and during and after our relationship, there were a lot of trust issues. She lied to me, chose other men over me, and would ghost me for weeks to avoid accountability. Over the course of the year, we’ve had some back-and-forth interactions where she would tell me how much she loved me and missed me, which would pull me back in, but then I’d discover something that would break my trust again. Recently, she reached out to me and said she wanted things to be different, that she had changed, and apologized for everything. So, we started seeing each other again over the last few weeks. I’ve moved into a new place and invited her to come over, but she initially declined, saying she was too busy. Then, yesterday, she asked if the invitation was still open, even though I had asked her about two weeks ago. I told her the invitation was still on the table, but I had one condition: that she come with good intentions and be honest with me about what she’s been doing. I wanted to make sure there were no hidden motives this time. However, she completely lost it on me. She got really angry and said that it wasn’t fair for me to bring up her past mistakes and that I was being unforgiving. She claimed she was opening her heart to me by agreeing to come over, but now, after what I said, she was going to back out and never speak to me again. I tried to explain myself, but things only got worse. She yelled at me, told me to never call her again, delete her number, and that she never wanted to see me again. She then started saying how I was right about all the bad things I thought about her, that she’s just a bad person who lies, cheats, and takes advantage of others. After screaming at me, she hung up the phone. I’m now wondering if I said the right thing or if there was a better way to handle the situation. Was I being unreasonable by bringing up her past mistakes, or was I right to ask for honesty from her before allowing her back into my life?141
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