Bret Alanis2 months agoAfter a difficult few days, my wife (40F) and I (40M) have decided to end our marriage. We have an 11-month-old daughter, and our focus now is on creating a healthy environment for her. The breaking point occurred last night during an argument when my wife punched me in the face. Unfortunately, this wasn’t her first act of physical aggression—she’s thrown objects at me and kicked me in the past—but this time was different because it happened in front of our daughter. I documented my injuries with a photo and informed my family. When they confronted her, tensions escalated. Although the police weren’t involved, she was fortunate things didn’t go further. What hurts the most is that our daughter had to witness this. She’s such a joyful and innocent child, and I’m deeply concerned about how this might affect her in the future. While my wife has since apologized, she also criticized me for not "taking it like a man" and for involving my family. She’s angry that I didn’t defend her when my family called her out on her behavior, labeling her a bad mom and pointing out her violent actions. At that moment, I felt emotionally done and couldn’t support her anymore. To her credit, she is a loving and attentive mother to our daughter, but the physical abuse crossed a line I couldn’t ignore. We’ve agreed on an uncontested divorce, but because she depends on me financially, we’re still living together as co-parents and roommates. It’s an awkward and uncertain situation. She needs to find a job and a place to live before we can fully separate, but until then, I’m trying to stay strong for my daughter.249
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