Lyndi Gladwyn2 months agoI (F36) feel emotionally and mentally alone in my marriage to my husband (M40). We've been married for 4 years, and when we first met, we had deep, engaging conversations about life and our interests. Over time, however, I noticed a shift. He never asks me anything beyond surface-level questions, especially about my thoughts or interests. It's always me asking him questions, or trying to bring up deeper topics, but he only responds with short phrases like "that's nice" or repeats what I said. He’s very insecure, with strong abandonment issues, and it feels like he wants to control me but isn't interested in connecting on a deeper level. He’s sweet, attentive to my daily needs, and generous, but it feels like he uses these actions as bargaining chips. He has no personality outside of being "nice" and doesn’t express his interests or thoughts. He calls me all the time to ask about mundane things like the weather, my meals, or how I slept, and if I don’t answer, he’ll keep calling and interrogating me, leading to arguments. The only time he opens up is when he creates conflict about our relationship, driven by his insecurities that he refuses to acknowledge. I feel invisible to him and that he sees me more as a possession than a partner. I’ve pulled away emotionally, but he continues to bombard me with calls, demanding attention and love, while I receive nothing in return emotionally, mentally, or spiritually. I’m exhausted and feel suffocated by the emptiness of this relationship, and I don’t know what to do anymore.153
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