Sullivan Josceline2 months agoI’m 33 years old and about to marry my boyfriend of 1.5 years, but I’m having doubts and fear I might be making the wrong decision, especially since this is my first relationship. I’ve lived abroad for many years and didn’t date before meeting him, which made me feel like I might be single forever. My health isn’t great, and as a super introvert, I struggle with connecting to people. After starting a new job, I met my boyfriend, and we secretly dated for six months before deciding to get married. Now, with only a week left before taking the next step, I’m questioning whether I’m making the right choice, especially after discussing it with my parents. Issue 1: I feel I want to marry because I don’t think I’ll meet anyone else who will understand me. I worry that I’ll be alone forever. My boyfriend has been emotionally supportive and accepted my health issues, which I’m grateful for, but I’m unsure how to know if I picked the right person since I have no previous relationship experience. Issue 2: My parents are concerned that he might only want to marry me for my nationality. We both work abroad and plan to move to the U.S. in a year, and they think that once he gets a green card, he’ll leave me for someone else. I went to two fortune-tellers and visited temples to get answers, and both sources predicted we’d divorce, which has made me anxious. I’m unsure whether I should trust these predictions or not. Issue 3: I’m also worried about his finances. He comes from a poor background, and his job skills aren’t in demand in the U.S. We’re planning to open a small business, but we’re struggling to save enough money for it. I’m doing most of the saving and planning, while his savings are almost nonexistent for his age. When I talked to him about it, he admitted he expects me to support him financially. This disappointed me because, even though I work, I still expect a man to be able to take care of me. He has a great personality, but I’m unsure if I should marry him knowing he’s financially unstable. TL;DR: I love him, but I’m afraid that marrying him could lead to financial struggles and regret. I feel torn between my heart, which says I love him, and my brain, which is warning me that he might not be the right partner. I don’t know what to do.150
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