Braylen Ethel2 months agoI’m a 30-year-old man in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend, who is 23. We met a year and a half ago during a trip to Berlin. After spending a couple of days together, we met again in Norway and Prague before deciding to give a long-distance relationship a serious try. We’ve always been open about our past relationships, and she has shared with me that her ex, with whom she had a two-year relationship, is still a part of her life in some way. Her breakup with him happened two years ago, and it was difficult for her. She was the one who initiated it, as she felt her relationship with him wasn't right—she was struggling with her health, and now she believes it might have been caused by medication. Even though the relationship wasn’t ideal and he wasn’t always the best boyfriend, he was her first love, and she says he was also her best friend. We usually meet about every two weeks, and we stay connected through frequent communication, online dates, and prioritizing each other. However, from time to time, she talks about missing her ex, especially when she’s feeling down. She’s expressed that she doesn’t want to feel this way but can’t help it. I understand, as I’ve had moments of missing my own ex, although I’ve moved on. So, while I try to empathize, it’s been happening for several months now, and I’m beginning to wonder if it’s a problem. She says she loves me, and I feel the same, but I avoid saying it too much because I don’t want her to feel pressured. She tells me she’s trying to move on from her ex, but she can’t seem to completely let go of him. Occasionally, she says she would never go back to him, but when she’s feeling sad, she seems more distant, closed off, and unsure about us. But once she feels better, she becomes more affectionate and loving. I understand her feelings, but I’m left wondering how long I should wait for her to fully move on. If these feelings don’t go away, am I wasting my time?11.5K
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