Keiran Kimberlya month agoRight now, I’m juggling a lot at home with our 5-year-old and 6-month-old. Our 5-year-old had surgery for hip dysplasia on December 17 and is currently in a cast, so I’m stuck at home with both kids. I’m up all night with the baby and all day with both kids, plus taking care of my husband before and after his 10-7 work shift. I’m feeling completely overwhelmed, exhausted, and overstimulated. I’ve been doing my best to keep up, but it’s been so hard 😩 This past week has been particularly rough. My birth control messed with my hormones, so I stopped taking it, which caused me to have three periods in the past month. On top of that, my 6-month-old is teething, so she’s fussy all day and night. My 5-year-old needs extra care, and my husband hasn’t been very helpful at all. He expects me to wake him up every 10-15 minutes in the mornings, but I don’t have the time for that. He sleeps all day if he doesn’t have to work. I also have to constantly remind him to do anything. Yesterday, things got worse. I wanted to nurse our 6-month-old in the bedroom because she hasn’t been sleeping, but he refused to leave the bedroom to watch our 5-year-old. He expected me to stay in the bedroom and nurse while he did nothing. I pointed out that it’s neglectful to leave our 5-year-old alone, especially since she’s in a wheelchair. He said she couldn’t do anything because of her condition, but I still felt that it wasn’t acceptable. We argued, and he didn’t speak to me for the rest of the day. Then, last night, he tried to make up for it by ordering pizza, but I’ve told him multiple times over the years that I don’t like this specific pizza he orders. He insisted I should be grateful for anything he gets me and told me I should thank him. This made me even more upset. Things seemed to cool down today, but this evening took another turn. We haven’t been intimate all week, and when he wanted intimacy, our 6-month-old woke up and wouldn’t go back to sleep. He punched the wall and slammed doors, and now he’s sleeping on the couch. We argued again because I called him out for throwing a temper tantrum like a 5-year-old. He got upset and said I was insulting him, being rude, and treating him badly. He also says I just need to be nicer to him, which is hard when he’s acting this way. I don’t know what to do or say. He’s telling me I need to apologize and take accountability. And on top of all of this, he expects intimacy daily and sexual attention whenever he wants, which is becoming very frustrating for me.141
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