Angela Simon2 months agoI (31F) have been dating my boyfriend (36M) for about two months, but recently, he’s started communicating less. In the beginning, we used to message each other regularly, share cute reels, and be sweet with one another. However, over the past week, the communication has dropped off, and it started to bother me. I felt like he might not want to be with me anymore, so I brought it up to him. He said he was thinking about something he needed to work through but didn’t want to talk about it until he figured it out. I tried to let it go, but the next day, I started to wonder if he was thinking about ending the relationship. His lack of communication was really hurting me—there was even one day he went over 8 hours without responding, even though he didn’t have work that day. I started to question if I should stay in a relationship where he wasn’t fully invested, so I told him that if he was considering ending things, I felt like I deserved to know. He said he wanted to think more about it, but he felt like I had pressured him into revealing his thoughts. Eventually, he admitted that part of what was bothering him was an incident involving my ex. A few weeks ago, I visited an old friend’s house, and my ex happened to show up. My friend and his wife invited me to a BBQ, and I explained to my boyfriend beforehand that my ex might be there, but I was just there to hang out and that my friend was teaching me how to ride a motorbike. Recently, my ex posted videos and pictures of me riding the bike, captioning them with "I love you." My boyfriend said he trusts me, but he was uncomfortable with the situation. He mentioned that there was "too much baggage," referring to the fact that my ex is still obsessed with me and continues to contact me. He feels like I should have sorted these things out before entering a new relationship. I’m upset about the situation, and I’m even considering getting a restraining order against my ex, but my boyfriend said he’s still thinking about whether to stay in the relationship or not. He said it would take him a few days to decide. Now, I’m feeling confused and unsure about what to do. Should I end things gracefully now, or should I wait for him to figure it out?129
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