Arron Staciea month agoMy wife (F23) and I (M25) have been married for a year and together for 7 years. Things were great at the beginning, and while we had our usual arguments, we always worked things out calmly. However, over the past 6 months, we’ve been fighting nearly every week—sometimes multiple times about trivial matters. What used to be calm discussions has now turned into shouting and insults, which was never the case before. Around 3 months ago, I started to notice where things were going and stopped speaking up when something bothered me. I just did what she asked, even if I felt it was unfair. I became quieter and started apologizing for things that didn’t require an apology, just to avoid more fights. This approach didn’t help, and after a month of bottling everything up, I snapped, and we had our biggest fight ever. Since then, something has changed in me. I still care about her, but I no longer feel the deep connection and love I once did. I’m less interested in what she talks about, and I find myself preferring to be alone rather than spending time with her. I’ve lost the desire for physical affection, and I stopped giving her compliments or gifts. I still care for her, but it doesn’t feel the same. Eventually, she noticed the change and has started working on herself, with some success. She told me she would do whatever it takes to save our marriage and expects the same from me. But for some reason, I feel unable to put in the effort. I’m so fed up and tired of the situation. I think about divorce almost every day, not because I want it, but because the thought keeps popping into my mind. I don’t want to lose her, and I’m committed to our marriage, so divorce is not a real option for me. I’m looking for advice on how to reignite the spark. Has anyone else gone through something similar and found a way to reconnect with their partner? I need some encouragement or guidance on how to approach this. 137
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