Marlee Fostera month agoI've (24F) been talking to a guy (28M) for a while, and things have been going really well between us. We have a lot in common, talk for hours, and share pictures, but there's one issue that's starting to bother me: his way of flirting. Although we’re in a long-distance situation and haven't met yet (but we're planning to soon), I'm starting to feel uncomfortable with the way he flirts. We haven’t gotten physical yet, and I haven’t sent him any revealing photos (since I’m not really into that), but his comments are starting to feel gross. For example, when I sent him a photo, he responded with something like, “That could run a train on me and fill my as up.” Or when I mentioned the rainy weather, he said, "Like my cck." He also commented that my nail polish looked like "yesterday’s underwear after gaming." Plus, every time I mention something "big," he sends eggplant emojis. There was also one time when I jokingly said I’d rather sit on him than on a gaming chair, and he responded with, “Really? You haven’t even met me yet?” It just feels like immature locker room talk, not the kind of flirting I’m comfortable with. Normally, I’m a pretty sexual person, but this feels more like an icky, gross vibe that I don’t enjoy. I still find him physically attractive, but the way he flirts is starting to make me question things. How can I approach this conversation and tell him that his flirting is turning me off, without making it awkward or hurting his feelings? I don’t want to push him away, but I also need to be honest about how I'm feeling.14
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