Della Ricaa month agoI (27F) have been with my partner (28M) for 4 years. We met when I was recovering from a toxic relationship and wasn't actively looking to date. Our connection grew from friendship, and even though he was about to leave for professional baseball overseas, we started a relationship. It was rocky initially due to the distance, but we made it work. He even came back and said he knew I was the one after I traveled to France to spend time with him. Things were great—strong communication, shared goals, and boundaries.But life hasn’t been easy. We’ve dealt with debt, job losses, and the stress of managing finances. I lost my job, and he financially supported me while I contributed in other ways, like cooking and keeping the home in order. Eventually, I got a job, but the stress continued. My contract ended, and I went on unemployment. This is where things started to strain our relationship.I went through his phone, and I saw that he had sent money to people for inappropriate videos/pictures from Snapchat. I confronted him, and he claimed it was out of stress, curiosity, and that he was struggling. He promised it wouldn’t happen again, but two weeks later, it did. He downloaded Snapchat and sent money again. He admitted he didn’t know what was wrong with him but said he wanted to change. We prayed together and started reading the Bible more, but now I’m unsure where we stand.Recently, he told me he wasn’t sure if this relationship was worth it, though he loves me. He explained the pressure of his new job, working third shift, and the stress of financially supporting us, sometimes having to ask his parents for money. I understand his stress, but I wish he had communicated it to me earlier so I could’ve helped with finding more consistent work. He says he feels shame and isn’t sure if we can work through this. We both cried because we love each other, but I’m confused. After everything, I don’t want to beg anyone to be with me, and I’m just not sure where we go from here.131
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