Kathlyn Lilliaa month agoI’m 30 and have been married to my husband (33) for 11 years, together for 13 years. We got together when I was 17, and I’ve changed a lot over the years. We have two children, aged 11 and 7. For a long time now, my marriage has been full of hurt, despite all my efforts to make things better. Right now, I feel numb. I’ve suggested counseling multiple times, but he’s always dismissed it, saying it’s a lazy way out and that I should be able to fix things myself. Recently, he agreed to counseling but then retracted within a few days. Whenever I try to talk about how bad our relationship has become, he threatens to kill himself if I leave. This is the main reason I’ve stayed. I’m only 30, and I don’t want to spend my adult years in an unhappy marriage, but I also need to do what’s best for my daughters. I already feel like a single parent since I handle almost everything alone, and though that’s been my ‘normal,’ I’m tired of it. I don’t want my daughters to think this is okay or acceptable. For those who have been in a similar situation, how did you know it was time to leave? Did you have any regrets? I know this won’t be easy, but I could really use some outside perspective right now.137
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