Micheal Lindya month agoI (M18) am in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend (F18) of almost a year and a half. Lately, we've been having arguments every night or every other night, often about small things. The tension is coming from my need to see friends and break away from our daily routine without much advance notice, which she struggles with. She’s recently mentioned that she might be autistic, which could explain some of her reactions to changes in routine, but it’s becoming hard to balance her needs with my own. She can’t handle me spending time with my friends or family without planning it well in advance and sometimes doesn’t respond to my messages for a day. We’ve also had disagreements about family events like Christmas, where she expressed that if she couldn't join me, she would consider leaving. Additionally, she has said she would leave if I ever voted for a political party she disagrees with, which feels disrespectful to me. I want to help her, especially if her concerns about autism are genuine, and I’ve encouraged her to seek help, but it feels like I’m walking on eggshells. I’m struggling to keep the relationship functional without feeling emotionally drained, and I don’t know if I’m being too lenient on her. I’ve even started lying about doing things just to sneak in time for myself. I’m at a crossroads between supporting her and maintaining my own well-being. Any advice on how to manage this situation?138
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