Loyalty Paisleya month agoI’m 24[F] and he’s 25[M]. Back in April 2024, I had a psychic reading (whether you believe in them or not, I do) that described the man I would meet in October 2024. His initials, physical features, and job field were all spot on. Fast forward to when we matched on Hinge, and we hit it off really well. We had our first date three weeks after chatting (we had planned to meet earlier, but we both got sick). The date lasted 4 hours, and he seemed genuinely interested in me, not just looking for something physical. He kept fixing his hair under his hat, which I read as a sign that he liked me. A week later, he invited me over to his apartment. We spent 12 hours hanging out, watching TV, having fun, playing with his dog, and he even bought us lunch. The night ended with a kiss, and he asked if he could kiss me. He made sure I got home safely and even asked me to come back the next day. During our time together, he was very respectful, never rushed anything, and we were both so comfortable it felt like we were already dating. We even talked about going to the zoo for a second date, since I hadn’t been in years, and he wanted to take me. But that never happened. I figured it was because his work got busier, and I didn’t want to seem too eager or desperate. I always offered support, encouraging words when he seemed down, and tried to be understanding. In the second week of December, he noticed I seemed a little down in my snaps and asked what was wrong. I mentioned I was feeling low because I wanted to spend quality time with someone. He responded by saying that now wasn’t a great time for him to start a relationship because he felt like a mess. That made me feel like I did something wrong, and I became heartbroken and sad. We agreed to stop sending flirty messages for a while, but we’d still hang out and go out for lunch, though that never happened. We’ve been chatting every day, but I’ve kept it non-flirty. I’m still the same supportive, kind, humorous person. Now, I’m confused about his behavior. Some days he’s really talkative, while other days he sends just one or two messages. He compliments my baking, saying he wants to try my cookies but doesn’t want me to drop them off, which stings but I haven’t told him that. He also compliments my outfits, always respectfully. However, when I compliment him (like saying his hair looks good or his shirt is nice), he ignores it. He doesn’t seem like the type to be seeing other girls, since he watches football a lot, doesn’t go out much, and sleeps a lot. When I bring up his interests, like football (I’m learning about it to show interest), he responds with hearts. I’ve developed strong feelings for him, but I’m not sure how to approach it. I want to tell him how I feel, but I’m worried he’ll just say he’s not ready again. Should I just continue to hold these feelings inside and wait until he’s ready, or should I ask him where he stands? I’ve grown accustomed to talking to him and don’t want to lose the connection we’ve built. 140
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