Donald Gordona month agoI (31F) am in a difficult situation with my fiancé (29M) regarding our upcoming wedding date, and I could really use some advice. To give you some background, my fiancé and I have faced challenges in our relationship, particularly due to his brother (32M). It seems that we often end up arguing more about him than about our own issues. For the first year of our relationship, we struggled to find time to go on dates because my fiancé lived with his brother, who had quit his job and was relying on my fiancé to cover their rent. Thankfully, my fiancé has since moved out and is living independently. Recently, my fiancé has been spending Wednesday mornings with his brother, which has become a routine for them. I was under the impression that we would be able to spend New Year’s Day together since my fiancé had to work on New Year’s Eve. However, a few days before, I learned that he had made plans to see his brother that morning. I expressed my disappointment, as it would be our only chance to celebrate together, but he still chose to go. After their hangout, my fiancé received a text from his brother saying that our wedding date wouldn’t work for him and suggesting we reschedule. His brother mentioned that he couldn’t take time off during his busy season at work and proposed that we consider a different month or season altogether. This was frustrating for me because we’ve had the wedding date planned for at least four months, and my family is fully aware and has made plans to attend. It turns out my fiancé hadn’t informed his family of the exact wedding date, only the month. Now, with his brother’s request, my fiancé came to me suggesting we should move the wedding. I asked if his brother had even tried to ask for time off, and it turns out he hadn’t. I find this situation quite selfish, and I’m tired of his brother taking precedence over our relationship. To complicate matters further, my fiancé texted me last night saying that his father also wouldn’t be able to attend the wedding on the original date. I understand that it’s unfortunate my fiancé didn’t communicate the date sooner, but now we’re left with a tough choice: potentially upsetting one family or the other. I’m looking for advice on how to navigate this situation without damaging family relationships. What steps should I take moving forward? If we do decide to change the date, how can I ensure it doesn’t get moved again? I want to handle this delicately and find a solution that works for everyone involved. --- I hope this captures your story clearly! Let me know if you need any further adjustments or assistance.147
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