Macey Velmaa month agoMy girlfriend (17F) and I (17F) have been dating for 4 months. Up until recently, everything was going well, and we were both very happy. However, in the past couple of weeks, we've gotten into several arguments over small things that turn into bigger issues, and we end up saying things that hurt each other. I know I'm often at fault because I struggle with managing my emotions, especially when something she says hurts me, and I react impulsively out of fear of her losing interest or getting annoyed with me, like in past relationships. After a few days of arguing, we talked things out in person and expressed what was bothering us. My girlfriend admitted that she's still hurt by how much we argued and feels like I’ve been nitpicking her behavior, which makes her feel like I don't love her as much. While she said she still loves me and wants to stay together, she’s worried things won’t be the same between us, and she has a hard time getting over the things people do to hurt her. She also told me that she feels anxious about how things have changed and isn’t sure if she can go back to how it was. We spent New Year's together, thinking things were improving, but after we got home, she told me that she’s still not sure how she feels. The fights have changed the dynamic of our relationship, and she feels like we don’t have anything to talk about anymore. I want to know what lighthearted topics I can bring up that will make her feel happy and comfortable again. I’m committed to working on my emotional control, but I need advice on how to help her move past the arguments and rekindle the spark in our relationship. I don’t want to lose her, and I believe our relationship is worth fighting for.140
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