Daividh Elspeta month agoI'm a 21-year-old guy, and my girlfriend, who is 24, and I have been together for three years. We've been living together in Europe for about a year and a half, and things are going really well. We love each other and are even planning to get married in the next 2-3 years. Recently, she met a client at work who is moving to Australia to live with his Australian wife. This sparked her interest in going to Australia for work and travel next year. She’s really serious about it and has been looking into the visa process, especially since it’s harder to get one after the age of 30. She mentioned that if she goes, she would stay for a minimum of 5-6 months. While I fully support her desire to pursue this opportunity, I have some concerns about the time difference. I would be in Europe, and she would be in Australia, which would limit our communication to just a few messages when I wake up and she goes to sleep. To me, that feels like almost no communication at all. I've experienced being away for work for about four months before, but the time difference was only two hours, so we could talk regularly. In this case, I worry that the lack of consistent communication would create a significant emotional distance between us. I can’t help but think that if we’re only exchanging messages about daily routines, our relationship could fade into the background. I trust her completely, but I’m concerned about the potential for her to seek emotional connections with others while she’s away, especially since she’s a very social person. I’m not as inclined to meet new people, so I fear that our different approaches to socializing could create a rift. I mentioned to her that I don’t want to sugarcoat it; I believe that this situation could lead to the end of our relationship due to the lack of communication. It’s hard for me to envision how we could maintain our emotional bond under these circumstances. One idea we discussed was for me to join her in Australia, but that depends on my job timeline. I want to start a new job that would benefit me, but she seems eager to go as soon as she has the money, and I don’t think she would wait for me. The main difference between us is that she tends to prioritize her own needs and desires, while I often put our relationship first. I’m left wondering if there’s any hope for our relationship to survive those six months with such limited communication. Is there a way to work around this situation?140
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