Marianna Fawna month agoWe’ve been having ongoing issues in our relationship. I asked my husband if we could go to therapy, but he refused, saying it would be a waste of money. Recently, he told me he posted on here, and the title of his post was “Wife vs Family: Who is Right and Who is Wrong?” The more I find out, the more I realize that I am being belittled and insulted by both my husband and his sister. They’ve called me lower social class, said I don’t belong in their family or social circle, and these comments are often made in front of others. My husband remains very nonchalant about it. When I asked him to speak to his parents, he did, but it doesn’t seem to matter—they just brush it off and go along with whatever his sister says. I also asked my husband to limit contact with his brother, and he promised me he would, but now he’s acting like nothing happened. They’re back to chatting all day, and it feels like my concerns don’t matter. It’s especially hurtful when he shouted at me, saying he doesn’t care if his family talks badly about me. It’s become clear to me that maybe my husband doesn’t care about me as much as I thought, and perhaps it’s because I’m not on the same “level” as his family. I worked hard to put myself through school and paid for my education, but it still feels like that doesn’t matter to him. The most eye-opening moment for me was when my father-in-law yelled at my mother-in-law. I’ve never seen my husband act the way he did when he told his father to stop and show respect to his own mother. He has never stood up for me in the same way, even when his family insults me or calls me awful names. It makes me feel like he values them more than me. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I’m starting to believe that my husband will never change, but it’s hard to understand why he’s so stubborn when the truth is right in front of him.152
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