Tori Phillipaa month agoI (30M) had my first date in years and things are complicated. I (30M) went out with a wonderful woman (30F) and I need help processing my feelings. We've been communicating for a month and we were finally able to get our schedules worked out yesterday. I'm neurodivergent and I rarely date, it's been around 2 years since my last serious relationship. There was a lot of flirty build up before then, and it's quite frankly the most desired I've felt since my last first serious date a long time ago. The date was a success, and I'm dying to see her again, but she has some things going on behind the scenes that she's working through. She hasn't had a lot of good relationships, there's trouble at home, and she wants time to figure things out before going forward. She's in therapy and wants to be sure she's ready for something like this. I don't have a problem with this, but I don't know if this is mixed signals or not. She has told me she'd like to see me again, but she just wants time to process. Says that "the vibes weren't all there" and it wasn't anything I'd done. On the contrary, she said it was "The best first date she'd ever been on." She kissed me on the cheek and thanked me for everything, so I really think I made a good first impression. My problem is... I've gotten attached in the short time I've known her. She's said the sweetest things to me, regularly told me how handsome she finds me, and starts my day with a good morning text. I've forgotten how good that feels, and I don't want to lose it. Where do I go from here? I'm expecting the worst but preparing for the best. Does anyone see anything wrong with this picture? I need some perspective. TL;DR: I have feelings for a date but I'm worried I've already lost her. Despite what she says.151
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