Tamsen Normana month agoGf (f22) lied to me (m25) about what happened when we were split up for 3 months for some context: I have a very strong aversion towards clubbing since my first (ex) girlfriend cheated on me 5 years ago and took drugs while clubbing. Since then I am not interested in dating anyone who does either of these two and I stopped doing both since 2-3 years. When I met my now gf, I made it very clear that I am not interested in dating anyone who wants to go clubbing. She never went clubbing in her life. A mutual friend of us asked us 2 or 3 times if we want to go but we declined. I always asked my gf if anything changed and if she will ever want to go clubbing a couple times as I am diagnosed with OCD. This was 2 years ago and through therapy I am now more chill with such things. 4 months ago I ended the relationship and we got back together 1 month ago. She went clubbing 1 time with the mutual friend while we were split up and lied about it in the beginning because she was scared to tell me and thought I would instantly leave her again if I would know. I must admit that because of my mental health, her fear is actually justified. Well it would be in the past, therapy has helped me tremendously when we were split up and I dont care if she went clubbing. Its the lie that makes it hard for me ( She showed me pictures of her halloween outfit and I asked if they went dancing and she denied with a very weird story, I even said to her that I think she is scared to tell me and that its fine and she doesnt have to lie but she still insisted she didnt go clubbing. 1 week later our friend talked about the club and even then she tried to deny it at the beginning.) I have a hard time, do you think such a lie is forgiveable? tl;dr gf lied to me about going clubbing because she was scared I would leave. She has valid reasons for feeling this way.11.2K
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