Zavanna Shelleya month agoLosing trust with my (F21) partner (M23) over a reddit post I (F21) have been doing long distance with my SO (M23) the last 5 months due to being on exchange on the other side of the world, and just recently came home. I just saw a post my SO made on reddit two months ago where he was asking what he should tell a "friend" that asked him whether it was okay to get together with another girl while his girl was gone overseas for a couple of months. I confronted him about it and he lied at first, trying to convince me for a whole day that it really was for a friend and that I should trust him on it because he has never done anything else to indicate being unfaithful (he really has not). The next day he tells me that this was not entirely true, and that there was a girl who reached out to him asking if he wanted to come over while I was gone. He said he immediately declined but in a weak moment decided to ask reddit what would have happened if he had done it - he tries to explain it to me as if he was simply curious, but never actually considered and thought about the possibility. I broke up with him two days ago over this because I genuinely felt that I could not trust his words, and that I could not trust my own judgment (I had started to believe him the first day). However, he keeps saying that it was a mistake, that he knows better and would never ever act upon anythibg, that I am the only one for him etc. I really miss him already, and the anger is seriously ebbing out of me. Reading back our messages I feel like maybe I really was too harsh in deciding to not believe a word he says. He is quite literally begging for another chance, but I don't know if I can ever get over the feeling of distrust, although I do feel in my heart that he did not cheat. What should I do? Is it possible to build trust again? TL;DR My partner posted on reddit asking what he should tell a friend in the exact same situation as him who asked if it is okay to cheat. He then asmitted it was for himself because a girl texted him, but he was just curious as to what would've happened, but had immediately declined her. I feel like I cannot trust him at all anymore. What can I do?11.2K
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