Kalyn Ronia month agoMy boyfriend (40) and I (35) have been together for three years. We both work in the oilfield industry, and we happen to work at the same camp, which allows us to spend time together. Recently, he was caught with testosterone and mild steroids during a routine room check, and as a result, he got banned from the site. I’ve been working intermittently over the past three months, and right now, I really need to keep my job to support myself financially. If I quit, there would be no EI or any job lined up, and I still have debt to pay off, especially with Christmas coming up. My boyfriend complains that I don’t contribute as much to the finances, but his paycheck is three times mine, and he has had more work opportunities recently while I’ve been sidelined due to environmental factors. When I told him I needed to stay and continue working, he called me a coward and said I should take a stand and quit to support him. He believes the company was out to get him and wants me to quit in solidarity with him. However, I feel it’s important for me to keep my job, as it’s not just about survival but also a career I’m working to advance in. I’m taking courses on the side to improve my skills and move up in the company. Edit: Thank you to everyone for your support and comments. Being at camp for 24-day shifts and feeling isolated can definitely make it harder to think clearly, especially when it feels like I'm only getting feedback from my boyfriend. But after reading your responses, I’ve decided to keep my job. I know it’s the best choice for me to stay financially stable and continue building my career. This might be one of the toughest decisions I’ve made for myself, but I’m prioritizing my future and well-being. I’m also focusing on staying sober and working on therapy to help me handle these difficult situations. I appreciate all the encouragement!145
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