Irena Radea month agoI (28F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (29M) for a while now, and I’m feeling frustrated about our current living situation and the expectations surrounding household duties. We both work full-time jobs, and while he earns significantly more than I do—about three times my income—he decided to cover the entire rent. I, on the other hand, take care of the utilities and groceries. While I appreciate that he pays the rent, it has led to some tension regarding household responsibilities. My boyfriend has expressed that since he pays rent, I should handle all the cleaning and upkeep of the house, including picking up after him. He believes it’s a woman’s role to take pride in maintaining a clean home. This expectation has put a lot of pressure on me, especially since I also work 40 hours a week. When I come home from work or have a day off, he expects me to take care of all the cleaning while he relaxes and watches TV. I feel it’s unfair that he expects me to shoulder all the household chores just because he pays rent. I believe that both of us deserve time to rest and enjoy our free time after a long day of work. I’ve tried to communicate my feelings about this imbalance, but when I do, he suggests that we could just split the rent 50/50 instead. Given my current income, that would mean I’d have to find a second job to make it work, which isn’t feasible for me. I really want to find a way to explain why this situation isn’t fair and to establish a more balanced approach to our household responsibilities. I value our relationship, but I also want to ensure that both of us contribute equally to our home, regardless of income differences.134
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