Irena Vanjaa month ago I’m a 19-year-old female, and my boyfriend is 20. We’ve been together for almost two years, but lately, I’ve been feeling increasingly alone and like my needs aren’t being prioritized. For example, I recently got a new gaming PC, and all I’ve wanted to do is play games with him. I’m not the best at gaming, but I genuinely enjoy it, and he’s the only person I have to play with. I’ve asked him multiple times if he wants to play together, but he usually declines or says, “maybe tomorrow,” and then never brings it up again. This pattern extends to our calls as well; I’m always the one initiating. Even when we both have free time, he often doesn’t want to call until the evening, and then he leaves shortly after to chat with his friends. We recently faced a situation that really highlighted these feelings. We had plans for him to come visit me and stay at my house for a few days. Since we’re in a medium-distance relationship, we only get to see each other once a week. However, he ended up sleeping in and decided not to come at all, despite my efforts to arrange alternative travel for him after he missed the bus. Today, we were supposed to spend time together, but he left our call almost immediately to play with his friends instead. I completely understand the importance of having time for friends and alone time in a relationship, and I make sure to balance both in my life. However, it feels like his friends take precedence over our relationship, which hurts, especially given the limited time we have together. It seems like he rushes away from our time together, which makes me feel unvalued. Additionally, I’ve noticed he often disregards my boundaries and can be quite insensitive. When I try to express my feelings or ask for simple things—like heating up my water bottle—I often end up doing it myself, feeling upset and unheard. I’m really stuck right now. I love my boyfriend deeply and don’t want to end the relationship, but I feel like he doesn’t care about my feelings or needs. I’m looking for any advice on how to approach this situation or what I could try to improve things between us. Thank you!141
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