Cvetko Tamaraa month agoI’m a 26-year-old woman, and I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend, who is also 26, for seven years. Three years ago, we made a special agreement: instead of exchanging birthday gifts, we would surprise each other with travel plans for our birthdays. The idea was to take a few days off work and create memorable experiences together. With his birthday coming up, I was thrilled to plan a surprise trip for him. I started organizing everything three months in advance, confirming multiple times that the dates worked for him, and he assured me he could take time off from work. I booked the flights, made hotel reservations, and even scheduled a suit tailoring session since I knew he had been wanting one. However, just a week before our trip, he casually mentioned that he had completely forgotten about a compulsory army service that he was called back for during the same period. He had known about this obligation for six months but somehow let it slip his mind. This means we would have to cancel the trip, which I had put so much effort into planning. I’m feeling incredibly upset and frustrated. I invested a lot of time and energy into creating this special experience for him, and it feels disheartening that he didn’t prioritize this or remember his commitment. I haven’t had a chance to discuss my feelings in detail with him yet, but I did express that I’m upset and need some time to process everything. I worry that he might not fully understand the depth of my anger, given that it seemed to have left his mind so easily. I want to communicate my feelings to him in a healthy way, but I'm unsure how to approach the conversation. Any advice on how to express my frustration while ensuring he understands the significance of what this trip meant to me would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!130
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