Benjamin Konrada month agoI (M45) have been dating my partner (F47) for about nine months, and for the most part, our relationship has been really good. However, there’s a lingering concern that I can’t seem to shake. In the past, I caught her lying about a guy she was seeing when we were casually dating. I chose to let it go, reasoning that she might have been trying to protect what we had. I told myself that if I caught her lying again, I would seriously reconsider our relationship, despite how well things were going between us. Recently, I discovered some subtle cues that have made me suspicious about something from her past. Specifically, I suspect that she may have slept with her ex-husband's brother, likely after their breakup. While this situation is in the past and not a dealbreaker for me, it raises some ethical questions, especially since there’s a young boy involved. I can’t help but think that one day he might find out, and I would rather not be blindsided by this revelation in the future. I’m torn about whether I should confront her about my suspicions. On one hand, I want to maintain open communication in our relationship, but on the other hand, I’m nervous about asking her, given her history of dishonesty. I fear that she might lie again, and I’m unsure how to approach this delicate topic without causing unnecessary tension. Ultimately, I want to understand the truth without judgment, but I also want to protect myself emotionally. Should I bring it up and risk her denial, or would it be better to let it go and trust that it’s in the past? I’m seeking advice on how to navigate this situation thoughtfully.138
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