Tomas Zlataa month agoI’m a 23-year-old guy, and I’ve been friends with a 27-year-old guy online for about a year and a half. Recently, we finally met in person when he invited me to spend New Year’s Eve with him, and I was excited to accept. He knows I’m gay, and I always thought of him as straight, so I never considered him in a romantic light—until now. After our time together, I started to notice some ambiguous behaviors that left me feeling confused and anxious. He acted in ways that felt more intimate than I expected, like when he grabbed my thigh while driving, paid for most of my meals, and we shared moments of feeding each other takoyaki. He also pinched my cheeks, caressed my head, and during New Year’s dinner, he suggested we go to a more isolated room to watch reels together. There were several instances where he held my hand briefly, and on my last day there, he hugged me tightly for a long time and kissed me on the cheek. These interactions have stirred up unexpected feelings in me, and I find myself constantly thinking about him. It’s affecting my mental well-being; I can’t focus on anything else, and I often find myself crying. The ambiguity of his actions has left me feeling lost, and I’m desperate for clarity.136
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