Jakub Radomira month agoI’m a 23-year-old guy, and I’ve been dating my girlfriend, who is 20, for a few months now. Everything between us has been going really well. We have a great connection, we rarely argue, and both her friends and family seem to like me. Overall, it feels like we’re building something special together. However, I've noticed that she brings up her ex quite frequently. Initially, I didn’t mind it, but it’s becoming more concerning. She mentioned that they’re still friends, which I thought was fine at first, but now it feels excessive. Her ex has even told her parents that he regrets breaking up with her, which adds to my unease. There are certain boundaries that seem to be crossed too. For instance, she kept photos of them together in her room until I brought it up, and while she did take them down, it still felt like it was a sign of lingering attachment. She also hasn’t introduced me to friends who are connected to him, and she rarely posts photos of us on social media, yet she continues to keep up pictures of her and her ex. Recently, she reposted TikToks about going through a breakup, which made me feel uncomfortable. We had a small argument on New Year’s because she went to a party back home, where she wore his jumper and posted a photo with him in it. It hurt to see that, and while she apologized and said she wouldn’t do something like that again, it still lingers in my mind. Last night, we had a more serious conversation about her feelings for her ex. She admitted that she still loves him, saying, “It’s hard to stop loving someone when you were with them for that long.” She described their relationship as feeling different, more like a friendship, while ours is more conventional. She also mentioned that she can't change her feelings for him. Lately, I’ve noticed that she hardly says “I love you” unless I say it first, which has been bothering me. While I truly care for her and believe we have a wonderful relationship, the ongoing connection to her ex is becoming a significant concern for me. I’m looking for advice on how to address this situation. I want to communicate my feelings without coming off as controlling or insecure, but I also want to ensure that we’re both on the same page about our relationship. Any suggestions?136
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