Jack Estellea month ago"Hi, I’m 36F and have been dating a 44F woman for a little while. Things seemed to be going well, and we had met a few times and communicated daily while she was away on a trip for a month. We kept things pretty slow and casual, only kissing on our dates. When she returned, everything still felt good, and we met in person for our 4th date. That’s when she dropped a major bombshell—she told me that she had recently undergone IVF and had successfully fertilized eggs, and was actively trying to get pregnant as a single woman. She had just received the news the day we first met, but never mentioned anything about this before. On my dating profile, I had been very clear about not wanting children, and this revelation completely threw me off. I was really shocked and unsure how to move forward, as it felt like we were on completely different pages when it came to such a big life decision. I told her I wasn’t interested in dating someone who wanted kids, and that I wasn’t open to being involved in a situation where children would be part of the equation. She was upset by my response and mentioned that she’s never been able to date anyone who shares her desire for children, and she got defensive when I expressed that this wasn’t something I could see myself pursuing. Now, I’m stuck, not knowing whether I should continue dating her or end things. This came on much faster than I expected, and I feel like it's too much to process so early in the relationship. What should I do? Should I let go, or is there a way to navigate this?"138
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