Sela Maryanna month ago"I (27F) have been with my partner (29M) since I was 16, and while we’ve been through a lot together and have had many happy moments, I’m struggling with my feelings. I used to love him deeply, almost obsessively in the early years, and while his love for me has grown stronger over time, I’ve noticed my feelings for him have shifted. We’ve built a life together—purchasing our first home in 2019, having our first child in 2022, and preparing to move into our forever home. Despite all of this, I’ve been grappling with my emotions. I do love him, but I don’t feel in love with him anymore. This feeling has been lingering for a while, and over the past year, it has become more noticeable. When he’s not around, I miss him and look forward to seeing him, but when he’s home, I almost wish he would go back to work. I find myself preferring my own company, avoiding intimacy, and feeling irritated with him more often than I used to. We both work full-time, but he works shifts while I have a 9-5 job. Despite us both being tired, I end up doing most of the cooking, cleaning, and child-rearing, which frustrates me because he complains about being tired too. I know he works hard, and I understand why he feels exhausted, but it still leaves me feeling overwhelmed and unsupported. He’s a really great person, which is what makes this even harder for me to process. What’s worse is that I’m not as attracted to him anymore, and that makes me feel guilty. I feel bad for not wanting to give the same energy to him as I did before. I have to consciously remind myself to do nice things for him because it doesn’t come naturally like it used to. I still love him, but it’s not the same. I don’t know how to tell him that I don’t feel the same way, but I also don’t want to keep pretending, because it’s affecting my happiness. We don’t argue much, and when I express my frustrations, he listens and apologizes. We move forward, but I feel stuck. I need help figuring out how to navigate this situation. What should I do?" 138
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