Marielos Narcisoa month agoI'm (34F) at a crossroads in my marriage to my husband (45M), and I'm grappling with the decision of whether to pursue a divorce. We’ve been together for 6.5 years and married for 3, but I find myself feeling increasingly overwhelmed. Our relationship began shortly after I ended a long-term commitment. I was hesitant to dive into something serious, but over time, I fell in love with him. We’ve faced our fair share of challenges, particularly regarding intimacy and family dynamics, but I believed we could work through them. He proposed just five months after we moved in together, and while our wedding was a joyful occasion, I now feel that our relationship has shifted significantly. Over the years, he has come to depend on me for almost everything, which has changed our dynamic from partners to something that feels more like caretaker and dependent. For example, during a recent spa visit, I tried to help him understand how to set a password for his locker. Instead of feeling empowered, he became anxious and expected me to guide him through it. Similarly, when we go out, he often looks to me to decide if he should take his house keys, even though we’ve never had an issue with forgetting them. I’ve attempted to express my feelings, emphasizing that I want him to be more independent and that I feel like I’m stepping into a parental role. Unfortunately, my concerns are often brushed aside, and he believes it’s normal for wives to take care of their husbands. This ongoing dynamic, coupled with a lack of intimacy, has left me feeling unappreciated and frustrated. As he searches for a new place for us to live—since we currently reside in my home—I find myself managing the logistics with real estate agencies. I feel invisible and belittled in our relationship, and it's becoming increasingly hard to cope. Now, I’m questioning whether it’s possible to fall out of love so quickly and if my feelings are valid. I would greatly appreciate any insights on how to navigate this challenging situation.137
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