Primitivo Wilmera month agoI'm an 18-year-old guy, and I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend, who is also 18, for nearly a year. Overall, things have been pretty good, but like any couple, we have our disagreements. However, I often feel drained after our arguments. She has shown me how to apologize in a way that makes her feel better, and I've been trying to follow her guidance. I genuinely want to support her and make things right when I'm at fault, but it feels like I'm constantly being told how to act, how to apologize, and even how to express my feelings. It’s exhausting to feel like I need to change who I am to meet her expectations. When I try to share my feelings, especially when I feel hurt, she often asks me to be calm and gentle. Even when I make an effort to communicate in a calm manner, it seems like my feelings get dismissed. It feels unfair that I end up apologizing even when she is the one who has done something wrong. I’ve talked to her about this, explaining that it feels disrespectful and one-sided. I want to support her, but I also need to feel heard and respected in return. I'm struggling to understand why it feels like I have to change so much while my feelings aren’t validated. I wonder how others navigate similar situations in their relationships.131
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