Sharyn Romana month agoI’m a 31-year-old woman, and I’ve recently found myself in a tough spot involving both my partner and my closest friend. I met my boyfriend about four months ago, and he’s been incredible—he’s made my life so much better after years in a toxic relationship where I was constantly walking on eggshells. Now, with him, I feel safe and supported as I heal from those past wounds. While no relationship is perfect, we’ve had some disagreements, like one we had over Christmas. But we were able to talk things through, recognize where we needed to improve, and move forward together. The problem is, my closest friend, who hasn’t met him, is convinced that he’s a narcissist and is using me. She even claims that he’s isolating me from my friends and that he’s still on Tinder. My friend is going through a messy divorce, and I’ve been supporting her through it, since I’ve been through my own tough breakups and custody battles. She’s back with the man who ended her marriage and says she’s in love with him. But now, the only time she reaches out to me is either for divorce advice or to tell me I should break up with my boyfriend. Recently, she sent me a message claiming that my boyfriend is on one of those "Are We Dating the Same Guy?" Facebook groups. She included a cropped photo of his Tinder profile, but the name was hidden, and it was cropped to hide the fact that it was a screenshot. The photo was actually one I sent her when I first started dating him, but it was cropped differently. I’m starting to feel suspicious—almost like she might be behind it. No one has commented on the post, except for me asking for details. I’m stuck, though. I can’t prove she’s behind this, and the more I avoid discussing my relationship with her, the more aggressive she’s becoming. My trust in both her and my boyfriend is starting to weaken. He’s shown me he’s a good person, but she’s not been acting like herself lately. I’m unsure how to move forward with this.130
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