Sutton Lexie2 months agoHey, I’m feeling really conflicted about something in my relationship and need some perspective. I (24F) have been dating my boyfriend (27M) for three years, and we've lived together for two. He’s amazing in so many ways—loving, loyal, and fun—but recently I’ve been feeling uncertain about our future together. At the beginning of our relationship, he talked about wanting to marry me and even having kids one day. However, as time has passed, it seems like his views on this have shifted. For example, when I recently held a baby, I made a comment to him about it, and he seemed uninterested, even refusing to look at the baby. When I tried to discuss our future and the possibility of marriage, he got defensive and uncomfortable, and instead of engaging, he said things like, “The honeymoon phase ends.” When I reminded him of his past statements about wanting marriage and kids, he told me that “marriage isn’t something I’ve ever seen myself doing.” This leaves me feeling unsure and confused. I’ve tried bringing up these topics with him several times, but it’s hard to get a clear answer, and it seems like he doesn’t want to talk about it. He’s also not open to therapy, even though I’ve suggested it. I understand that everyone has different views, but I’m wondering if we’re heading in different directions. I don’t want to break up with him, but I also don’t want to look back and regret not pursuing the life I envision. Does anyone have advice on how to handle this? Should I keep pushing the conversation, or is it time to reevaluate our relationship?134
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